Psychotheraphy

What is psychotherapy?

Psychotherapy refers to a range of treatments that can help with mental health problems, emotional challenges, and some psychiatric disorders.

It aims to enable patients, or clients, to understand their feelings, and what makes them feel positive, anxious, or depressed. This can equip them to cope with difficult situations in a more adaptive way.

Often, the course of therapy lasts under 1 year; individuals who are eager to change and willing to put in the effort often report positive results.

Psychotherapy can provide help with a range of problems, from depression and low self-esteem to addiction and family disputes. Anyone who is feeling overwhelmed by their problems and unable to cope may be able to benefit from psychotherapy.

Combined with medication, it can play a role in treating bipolar disorder and schizophrenia.

What to expect

Psychotherapy is sometimes called a “talking treatment” because it uses talking, rather than medication.

Some forms of psychotherapy last only a few sessions, while others are long-term, lasting for months or years. Sessions are usually for 1 hour, once a week, and they follow a carefully structured process.

Sessions may be one-to-one, in pairs, or in groups. Techniques can include other forms of communication, such as drama, narrative story, or music.

A psychotherapist may be a psychologist, a marriage and family therapist, a licensed clinical social worker or mental health counselor, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, psychoanalyst, or psychiatrist.

Who can benefit?

Psychotherapy can be used to help a range of people. The following feelings are signs that an individual might benefit from this type of therapy:

  • Overwhelming feelings of sadness or helplessness.

  • An inability to cope with everyday problems.

  • Difficulty concentrating on work or studies most of the time.

  • Drinking too much, taking drugs, or being aggressive to an extent that is harming themselves or others.

  • A sense that problems never improve, despite receiving help from friends and family.

  • Feeling constantly on edge or worrying unnecessarily.

Psychotheraphy is a change process

Psychotherapy is a holistic engagement that focuses on the mental, emotional, relational or spiritual health of a human being. It is useful when psychological, developmental, relationship and wellbeing issues arise in life. A psychotherapist engages with a person or group in a process of working together to build understanding and acceptance of how the person makes meaning of their life. Together we create and integrate life giving solutions to old and new problems.

Methods of change using 7 universal principles

It has been found that several systems of personal development despite their apparent diversity in method and theory, are largely based on the same underlying principles of development and healing. In the ID psychotheraphy we work with 7 principles of change, which appear to go back to virtually all forms of personal development.

1. Raising awareness

We can not change something that we are not aware of. Therefore, methods that will give us insight about ourselves, our barriers and opportunities, will be an essential part of any serious development system. Therefore, self-development, coaching and therapy will provide us with insight into the causes of our problems and challenges in existence, as in our untapped inner resources and potentials.

2. Changing attitudes

Scientific research has over the last decades documented how crucial our attitude towards ourselves and our lives is for our learning skills and health as well as for our overall experience of success in existence. All forms of personal development and psychotherapy are therefore also about helping us change the attitude to different sides and levels of ourselves that can be life-threatening or destructive to us.

3. Accountability

But progress requires accountability and action. Therefore, virtually all forms of self-development and therapy are also about helping us to take more responsibility for our own lives. One’s well-being rises when you get the initiative and leadership back over your own life.

4. Competency

We can not take responsibility for something we do not possess the skills and skills we can do. Personal development must therefore also help to help people become more competent in dealing with both internal and external challenges.

5. Energy Balance

When there is confusion, inner conflict, stress or unfulfilled wishes and needs, of one kind or another, there will also be surge in the psyche. Personal development is also about peeling off body and psyche.

6. Integration

Although we are very conscious about ourselves and our thoughts and feelings have found a greater degree of mental balance or increased our ability to take more responsibility for our own lives, there may still be internal conflicts in the psyche or different sides of us who are not yet working with us. Perhaps we experience a conflict between what the head and feelings say, the good continuances are not followed by action or similar contradictions. Therefore, most more profound forms of self-development are also about kneading the mass together, so what you want and what you do is better connected.

7. Self-realization

ID coaching, self-development and psychotherapy are largely about breaking the identification with the limiting believes, roles and self-image, which are the real reasons for our difficulties and challenges in life. It allows us to regain our authentic essential self.

ID psychotherapy utilize all different schools to fit your situation in the best way.

Within ID psychotherapy  we illustrate psychotherapeutic work through a model that we call the ID development spiral.

Within ID psychotherapy, it is our experience that in a psychotherapy process or in a deeper self-development process, we naturally come into contact with various life themes and dimensions of the psyche, which have been described by various psychological and therapeutic traditions for more than 100 years.

If you know the different psychological and psychotherapeutic directions, you will notice that each level of ID developmental spiral is also a description of the aspect of the psyche who has had the main focus or primary interest of the various psychological schools.

Instead of seeing the different directions in psychotherapy as more or less correct, we use ID psychotherapy of the unique insight into the human mind that the otherwise often contradictory psychotherapeutic directions have each contributed.

7 angles of psychotherapy

The ID development spiral has 7 levels, each describing a psychological mindset, which in turn derives from each psychological direction.

Let me give an example of how the development spiral can help us not less than 7 different ways of understanding and helping our therapist clients.

Each layer of the spiral has its own root cause of the problem of a therapist and therefore, to some extent, its own solution to the problem.

Imagine that Jasmine is in therapy and regrets her distress over a typical relationship problem.

She is sad and sad with her inclinations to criticize her boyfriend Peter every time he is not quite what just makes him pull and close to her. But it’s as if Jasmine can not control his feelings. She reacts completely reflexively if Peter ignores her.

Psychotherapy from a behavioral psychological angle

The first level of development spiral

If we take a behavioral psychological angle on Jasmine’s problem, we focus primarily on her behaviors and reactions and how we can make her change her behavior.

Our solution at this level of development spiral would typically be to help Jasmine break his destructive habit and help her find a more constructive way of responding.

Of course, in some cases it would be relevant to help a client that way. But usually behavioral regulation is not enough to solve our emotional and social problems. So within ID Psychotherapy, we will in most cases choose to go one level deeper and try to solve the problem from the second level of the developmental spiral.

Psychotherapy from a cognitive angle

Secondary level of development spiral

The second level of development spirals is about the psychic “filters” we experience throughout the world. We do not sense the world objectively, but “construct” each and every one our own subjective perception of reality.

And when we take this “constructivistic” cognitive angle to psychotherapy, we say that our emotional reactions and patterns of behavior are, in fact, rather due to our subjectiveperceptions of perception than what is objectively about us.

So when we put Jasmine’s problem into a cognitive understanding framework, we are considering what Jasmine should perceive the situation on, and what to think of herself, Peter and her relationships, to respond in that way.

A hypothesis could, in this case, be that Jasmine consciously or unconsciously interprets the behavior of her boyfriend as a rejection and as a sign that she is not particularly important to him.

Our therapeutic explanation is, therefore, that Jasmine’s emotional reaction has something to do with her way of thinking and, in general, to perceive the situation.

When we work from this level of the spiral, one solution could be to help Jasmine change the way she perceives the girlfriend and the situation. Jasmine could learn to understand the situation in a different way, and then she will respond differently.

Psychotherapy from an interpersonal angle

Third-level development spiral

The third level of development spirals is about the roles and relationship patterns we form, which make up the good or bad “chemistry” between people.
This way of thinking psychologically is called interpersonal psychology.

When we take this angle on Jasmine’s problem, we will typically consider what a role Jasmine takes in her relationship with Peter since she is in such a painful situation.

An interpersonal explanation could be that the role Jasmine unconsciously takes in relation to her boyfriend triggers a rejection of her boyfriend, which in turn reinforces Jasmine’s sense of being rejected. It is thus the roles and the way they relate to each other that create the problem.

The solution based on this psychological mindset could be to raise awareness of Jasmine and Peter about their roles and unfortunate relationship patterns and to change their way of interacting.

Beside my 5 years of ID psychotherapy training, I have been done a lot of courses, personal development and retreats within this area. I have a lifelong experience with many change processes. I will be glad to help you through your change process, problems and transform your life to a better version.

With kindness and infinite love Jens Belner
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Jens Belner, Psychoterapeaut

Psychoteraphy methods that fit you and not vice versa.

We work with a whole range of different therapeutic methods in his psychotherapeutic practice. If you want to help people with entire emotional wounds and get through the personal crises, there are fortunately a lot of different effective ways to do that. And there will surely also be a “psychotherapeutic style” that fits really well with just your taste and your unique personality.

The beauty of finding a therapeutic approach that you really enjoy is that you are also much more effective.

ID Psychotherapy   is a synthesis of the best we have encountered through our many years of experience as psychotherapists. And because our theories and methods are not only derived from a single narrow psychotherapeutic direction, it can therefore be very different from situation to situation and from client to client, which therapeutic approach we choose to use.

One of the basic ideas within ID therapy is precisely that the therapy should suit you and not vice versa.

  1. Conversation therapy
  2. Body reading and psychotherapy
  3. Psychotherapy and Dreaming
  4. Drawing therapy
  5. Role playing and psychodrama
  6. Body psychotherapy

Psychotherapy from a psychodynamic angle

Fourth level of development spiral

The fourth level of development spirals is about our childhood and upbringing, and how it has shaped both our personality, our ways of relating, the filters we see and hear the world through and our concrete behavioral patterns.

Psychotherapy that focuses on the importance of childhood and adolescence in psychotherapy is typically called “psychodynamic” therapy.

When we take a “psychodynamic” angle on Jasmine’s problem, we will typically consider what Jasmine has experienced during her childhood and upbringing since she has such a problem in her relationship with Peter.

A “psychodynamic” model of explanation would probably be that what happens to Peter and the perception that she rejects her is in fact a replay of an old relationship pattern that Jasmine in her childhood had in relation to her mother or father.

The solution could be to treat Jasmine’s childhood and upbringing therapeutically. By working with her relationship with her parents and trauma, failure, unfulfilled need in childhood, etc., Jasmine was able to free himself from the past and thus stop relaying childhood disputes in her relationship.

Psychotherapy from an existential angle

Fifth level of development spiral

The fifth level of development spiral is about the general human basic conditions that we all have to confront. It is the level that deals with existential psychotherapy.

Many people seek a psychotherapist because they have existential problems. Or, the existential issues arise during childhood and childhood therapy.

In Jasmine’s case, for example, we could consider why Jasmine as a child has been so marked by her parents’ rejection.
An existential explanation would typically be that she did because she as little was confronted with the general human basic conditions of existence, ie. with anxiety, isolation, meaninglessness or the like.

The solution in an existentially oriented psychotherapy could be that Jasmine gets the job of acknowledging and accepting her basic solitude and seeing the fear of death, as already in her early childhood, the rejection of her mother so scary and traumatic.

Psychotherapy from a humanistic angle

The sixth level of development spiral

The sixth level of development spiral is about unfolding the potential we come to the world to update our values ​​and our personal meaning with life.
That’s what you call  humanistic psychotherapy.

Humanistic psychology and psychotherapy are about developing our real human potential. The existential basic conditions make us seek the meaning of life, help clarify our values, make us at best more compassionate and ethical, and ultimately lead to the actualization of the essential self, our deepest authentic Self.

A solution in humanistic psychotherapy could help Jasmine to conscious and integrate those of her innate potentials that will enable her to confront individuality , gain space and accept her upbringing conditions, and create new and more resourceful ways of living live.

Psychotherapy from a transpersonal angle

The seventh level of development spiral

The seventh level of the development spiral is about our inner core essence

If we want to penetrate fully into the core of development work, we could choose to let psychotherapy move beyond the limits of personality, as the word personality is usually understood.
This is what is called ” transpersonal psychotherapy”.

We could ask what this above-mentioned unfolding of the personal potential at the deepest level is an expression of.

The answer here could be that we all consciously or unconsciously long for the soul or essential being that forms our inner core and consciously associated with all other living beings.What somebody would call it divine.

Here we are at the transpersonal level, which in particular the East’s mystery has described for centuries, but which, in recent decades, has been the subject of increasing interest in psychological circles in the West.

The solution at this level is to discover that personality with all its patterns of reaction, as we usually understand it, is an illusion. Under all the self-images and the self-understanding that our personality basically consists of, and which is primarily the result of our social adaptation during the growth, a deeper and more original identity hides.

Personality is in fact a substitute for our deepest native nature.

The transpersonal work consists of gradually breaking the identification with the limiting self-images that the personality consists of and realizing our essential self.
By this we no longer experience ourselves separate from anyone or something. Instead, we experience coherence and harmony with the environment in which we live.